Raising a Child Who’s Thankful (Not Spoiled)

Having a hard time dealing with your spoiled kids? They said that there is no such thing as spoiled kids. Their behavior will depend on how they are being raise.  So how do we discipline our kids? Do we spend enough time for them? Do we say ‘no’ when it’s too much?

As a parent I find few things more troubling than watching one of my children  — children who have been born to every advantage of a middle-class American life  — act like an eye-rolling, foot-stomping Bratz doll. The worst part about it: I’ve done much to encourage it. But it’s not just my kids. I often see other children behaving like selfish, entitled creatures who want more, more, more, and don’t see how lucky they are to have what they’ve got. Any parent whose child has cried because she was told she couldn’t have a particular new toy, or shirt, or cereal knows the feeling.

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We have coconspirators, of course. Blame TV, blame peers, blame our status-seeking culture. Heck, blame grandparents for deluging kids with gifts. But no matter how it happened, two-thirds of parents would call their own kids spoiled, to say nothing of everyone else’s, according to a Time/CNN survey.

Luckily, you can implement a cure that doesn’t involve restructuring society. It doesn’t even require restructuring your family. It consists of a series of small-but-significant lifestyle tweaks that won’t take much time or cost a penny. Plus, you can implement the strategies immediately  — today, if you want. Just don’t expect immediate results. Like most of parenting, this is a long-term project. To get started:

Read more: http://www.parenting.com/article/raising-a-child-whos-thankful-not-spoiled

Tips for managing tantrums and engaging kids during holidays

Kids are just the most excited on holidays! But in most instances, you couldn’t miss a child throwing tantrums at the mall or family gathering. While it may be ok for your family and close friends, how about the people you don’t know? Do not allow your child to ruin a special occasion because he couldn’t show a good behavior. Parents are all responsible in making sure that the child behaves properly especially in public.

 

Navigating shopping malls during the holidays with kids in tow can be stressful for parents, but a little preparation goes a long way to ensuring good behaviour.

Photo from http://www.thestar.com

“Tantrums are about power struggles and attention,” said Natalia McPhedran, an Ottawa-based children’s coach and author of Life With Kids — Empowering Our Children To Be Ready For The Real World, due out this month.

“If we use techniques at home that avoid the power struggles at home, I think that you’re halfway there by the time you get to the mall because they know: ‘OK, Mom means business.’”

 

Read here: http://www.thestar.com/life/parent/2013/12/02/tips_for_managing_tantrums_and_engaging_kids_during_holidays.html